PRACTICAL STEPS TO HEALING TRAUMA

DREAMSPELL: Months Of The 13 Moon Calendar and one's "Signature"

SECTION A: A GOOD NAME IS BETTER THAN GOLD

A child is born with a contractual agreement that happens in a most Divine way between the Creator, The Child, and the parents that were chosen. The child has chosen his or her own gifts by chosing the date of birth. Names were always well thought about in our original traditional socities. Children experience important life lessons by knowing the meaning of their names and affirming who the parent has named each child to be.  "A good name is better than gold"  By giving an infant their birth name, the parent has also chosen for that child their life-story "Destiny" and Opportunities. 

DATE OF BIRTH:        __/__/____
Inner Child:                  .................................................[__/_]
Life Purpose:              ..................................................[__/_]
Personal Year:            .................................................[__/_]
Personal Month:         ..................................................[__/_]

FULL BIRTH NAMES:

• FIRST:     __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __           KEY
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                 ______________________________________  
• MIDDLE: __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                _______________________________________
• MIDDLE: __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __     
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                _______________________________________
• MIDDLE: __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    
•                  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                 ______________________________________
• LAST:     __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __     
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
• "DESTINY" FULL BIRTH NAME             = [ __/_]        

SECTION B: STRESS & ANGER MANAGEMENT:

Excerpt A Torchlight For America #

The Lessons Of Preparation From Mother & Father: Children Learn What They Live

[_] 1: LEADER 10,19,28,37,46,55,64,73,82,91 

• Underline Strengths:                               Originality, Pioneer, Initiator, Determination, Creative.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change: Arrogant, Selfish, Egotistical, Manipulating, Dominating, Cold, No Tact, Tyranny, Antagonism, Bully
• Stress relief:                                              Write, photography, horse back riding, invention, make old new. 
• Manage Anger: A moment of clarity. Collect thoughts before talking

[_] 2: DIPLOMAT 11,20,29,38,47,56,65,74,83,92

• Underline Strengths:                                Peace, Cooperation, Musical, Self-Sufficient, Reliable.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change: Insincere, Petty, Indecisive, Shy,Timid,Self Pitying, Oversensitive, Deceptiveness, Cruel, Bad temper, Slyness, Lying, Pessimism
• Stress relief:                                              Cook, dance, swim, sail, paint, physical therapy
• Manage Anger: Once calm, express anger. Be assertive not aggressive

[_] 3: VISIONARY 12,21,30,39,48,57,66,75,84,93  

• Underline Strengths To Promote:           Creative, Confident, Friendly, Popular, Joy, Self-Expression, Passionate.  
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change: Scattered, Bored, Vain,  Dictator,  Fickle, Jealousy, Hypocrisy, Wastefulness, Intolerance, Promiscuous 
• Stress relief:                                            Jewelry, music, paint, storytelling, travel, photography, journal.
• Manage Anger: Practice relaxation skills. Breathe, write in journal,

[_] 4: BUILDER 13,22,31,40,49,58,67,76,85,94 

• Underline Strengths To Promote:          Honest, Disciplined, Practical, Loyal, Stability, Hard-Worker, Conservative.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change: Insensitive, Dull, Melancholy, Dogmatic, Narrow-Minded, Stubborn, Vulgar, Animalism, Hatred, Violence, Jealousy, Destructive 
• Stress relief:                                             Chess, museum, concert, electronic, garden, sculpting Manage Anger: Identify possible solutions: Resolve issue, reschedule

[_] 5:   LIBERATOR 14,23,32,41,50,59,68,77,86,95 

• Underline Strengths To Promote:            Versatile, Spontaneous, Freedom-Loving, Communicator, Magnetic, Physical.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change: Self-Indulgences related to senses, Irritable, Abusive,  Procrastinating, Inconsistent, Perversion, Abuse of Freedom, Substance Abuser: Over-Indulgence in alcohol, drugs: medications or controlled substances, sensuality  
• Stress relief:                                             Crossword puzzles, travel, handball, track/field, swim, calligraphy
• Manage Anger: Get some exercise: Participate in pleasurable physical exercise:

[_] 6: COUNSELOR 15,24,33,42,51,60,78,87,96 

• Underline Strengths To Promote:           Responsible, Harmony, Advisor, Artistic, Balanced, Home loving, Angelic.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change:Self-Righteous, Jealous, Meddlesome, Anxious, Intrusive, Cynicism, Egotism, Suspicion, Jealousy, Slavery, Domestic Tyrant 
• Stress relief:                                                Cook, ceramics, all types ball games, jogging, dance, art.  
• Manage Anger:  Use “I” statements: Avoid criticizing, blaming. Use respect

[_] 7: SCIENTIST 16,25,34,43,52,61,79,88,97 

• Underline Strengths To Promote:            Individuality, Perfection, Deep-Thinker, Analytical, Mystic, Psychic, Reserved, Secretive.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change: Sarcastic, Dishonest, Procrastinator, Will not accept advice, Withdrawn, No Faith, Turbulence, Malice,  
• Stress relief:                                              Nature, science, paint, write, puzzles, photography. meditate
• Manage Anger: Take a “time-out”. Take a few moments of quiet time alone.

[_] 8: EXECUTIVE 17,26,35,44,53,62,71,80,98 

• Underline Strengths To Promote:            Authoritative, Power, Independence, Organization, Religious, Fortune, Wise.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change:  Greedy, Power-Hungry, Intense, Scheming, Materialistic, Ruthless, Vain Dictator Bullying, Abuse, Revenge, Oppressiveness, Injustice, Cruelty, Unscrupulousness  
• Stress relief:                                              Morning walk. pottery, antiques, folklore, collect rock, skiing
• Manage Anger: Humor to release tension. Lighten up, avoid sarcasm

[_] 9: HUMANITARIAN 18,27,36,45,54,63,72,81,90,99 

• Underline Strengths To Promote:           Courageous, Compassion, Romantic, Spiritual, Psychic, Generous, Sophisticated.
• Circle Weak Behavior Traits To Change: Impulsive, Argumentative, Heartless, Unfocused, Temperamental, Wasteful, Immorality, Vulgarity, Bitterness, Morosenes
• How To Handle Challenges:                     Learn techniques that help you to release the past. Having a parent's emotional support is very .  
• Stress relief:                                              Outdoor sports, acrobats, traveling, carpentry, horseback riding
• Manage Anger: Don’t hold grudges. Forgiveness, think positive thoughts

SECTION G:

SIGNS OF DYSFUNCTION OR NEEDS PORTRAYED IN FAMILY

• [_] Abuses indicated: Emotional, Physical, or sexual
• [_] An aura of superficiality:  Looks vs reality
• [_] A need to be adored or worshiped 
• [_] Demonstrating overbearing aggression 
• [_] Lack of ability to properly guide family
• [_] Lack of honesty & integrity
• [_] Lack of trust & respect
• [_] Marriage portrayed as burdensome
• [_] Sexuality used to manipulate relationship
• [_] Single-parenting accepted as the norm

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SECTION A: A GOOD NAME IS BETTER THAN GOLD

Names were always well thought about in our original traditional socities. Children experience important life lessons by knowing the meaning of their names and affirming who the parent has named each child to be.  "A good name is better than gold"

• FIRST:     __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __           KEY
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                 ______________________________________  
• MIDDLE: __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                _______________________________________
• MIDDLE: __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __     
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                _______________________________________
• MIDDLE: __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    
•                  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]
•                 ______________________________________
• LAST:     __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __     
•                 __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __  __    = [__/_]

SECTION B: AROMATHERAPY

TRADITIONAL USES OF ESSENTIAL OILS:

Ancient Kemetic texts have recorded that essential oils raise the body’s frequencies, bringing mental clarity, & strengthening. They are the first recorded known to have practiced aromatherapy. Aromatic oils were used for healing, cosmetics, religious ceremonies and embalming. Written about in sacred texts, used by prophets, leaders, medicine men, and midwives. There are also over 500 references to essential oils in the Bible for their therapeutic healing powers.

MEDICAL USAGE OF ESSENTIAL OILS:

Essential oils have been scientifically proven for therapeutic purposes, according to some doctors. Aromatherapy is used with other complementary treatments such as:

• stress and anxiety
• depression
• massage
• acupuncture
• system management

CLINICAL AROMATHERAPY:
Essential Oils in Health Care By Dr. Jane Buckle, PhD, RN
Addictions & Depression DSM 5
Clinical trials have investigated aromatherapy for treatments with mental health issues. Studies show sedative & stimulant effects of essential oils and positive effects on behavior, and immune system functioning. Medical studies support the influence of odors on the limbic system, and it’s emotional pathways.  

SECTION C:
CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES: WHAT HAPPENED?

A.C.E.S./TRAUMA INFORMED CARE: CIRCLE WORDS: THAT BEST DESCRIBES YOUR FEELINGS & OR EXPERIENCES AS A CHILD & NOW AS AN ADULT/PARENT

[_] MENTAL :

• While growing up: family stood by me during difficult times. I felt supported by my friends. I didn’t feel supported or encouraged to accomplish goals. I felt my parents didn’t care about my health or my future, racism,
• Now: upset, not relax, nervous energy, tension, clarity, concentration, no self worth, sadness, worried, feeling neglected, parents separated, sexism

[_] EMOTIONAL:

• While growing up: I felt like I belonged at my school. I felt validated and valued by a teacher, I was able to talk to my family about my feelings. There was an adult in my household who made me feel safe and protected. There were at least two adults, other than my parents, who took a genuine interest in me. was often threatened. I was called names and insulted because of my looks. I was teased a lot for how I thought or behaved. I felt insulted and put down. I was sweared at.
• Now: sad, depressed, scarred, no joy, feeling blue, agitation, anger, bitterness, nervousness, anxious, fears, feeling put down, community violence,

[_] SPIRITUAL:

• While growing up: I enjoyed participating in my family or community traditions. I often was shamed & humiliated, I didn’t feel like I belonged or that anybody cared, I lived with someone who was suicidal
• Now: -not feeling worthy, no interest, no initiative, anxiety, despair, not looking forward to anything, -not calm, don’t trust, no peer support

[_] PHYSICAL:

• While growing up: I was involved in enjoyable activities. felt unprotected, danger, I didn’t have enough to eat, I lived with a substance abuser, I was sexually abused by someone 5 years older than me or an adult, Someone 5 years older than me or an adult often made me touch them sexually or have sex with them. I often visited prisons, I witnessed adults in my home/slap/hit/kick/punch/or beat each other up. I was also slapped/hit/kicked/punch/beat
• Now: breathing, shakiness, faint, trembles, heart aches, headaches, abuse, addiction, faintness, fidgety, illness, treated violently, racism, over-reacts, touchy, low tolerance, easily agitated, over-active, restlessness, sweaty palms, dry mouth, experienced trauma: disasters, homeless

CHILDREN SUICDES:

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POSSIBLE COMMENTS/ACTIVITIES MADE DURING PREGNANCY & BIRTH AND LASTING EFFECTS ON PERSONALITY

• [_] “Don’t waste too much time, I don’t think he/she is worth it” ... Overachiever
• [_] “If during time of emergency baby is put aside, left alone, & family is upset with mother for taking a chance giving birth. Wondering if he/she belongs, always trying to find one’s place, not sure where one fits in.
• [_] “We really wanted a boy (or a girl) this time” ... Distrust of any demonstration of appreciation, trouble accepting complements.
• [_] “We have too many children already, now here’s another one” ... Always feeling rejected
• [_] “So you’re the little booger that caused mama all this trouble” ... Guilt, shame
• [_] “I really don’t want you, you’re funny looking” ... Dislike for parent, difficult parent-child relationship, dislike for self
• [_] “You’re so beautiful, you’re perfect in every way!” ... Feels secure, feels good about self
• [_] Mother is really happy, excited to see baby, says nice things ... Feels everything is all right with the world
• [_] Father is agreeable, smiling, and showing baby off ... Feels pleasure, feels perfect, and secure

REMEMBERING MY OWN STORY: THINGS THAT WERE SAID ABOUT ME

“When my mother was carrying me in her womb, she expressed that her dominant thoughts about me were:

__________________________ ___________________________ 

REMEMBERING MY CHILD'S STORY: THINGS THAT WERE SAID DURING THE PREGNANCY

__________________________ ___________________________  

SECTION H: CONSULTATION

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Certified Youth Mental Health First Aider (Teen Suicide Prevention) 
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